1. Keep aside few pieces of dates for garnishing and grind the rest to a smooth paste along with half the coconut milk.
2. Empty the paste into a heavy bottemed pan and bring to boil on the stove.
3. Add the remaining coconut milk, jaggery, elaichi and boil well.
4. If the mixture is too thick, add milk and boil for some more time.
5. Adjust the sweetness according to your taste.
6. Remove from stove; garnish with the remaining date pieces and fried cashews and serve hot.

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